When it comes to creating impactful conversations—whether in coaching, sales, or leadership—two elements play a central role: trust and influence. Think of trust as the foundation of a strong relationship, and influence as the tool that helps you guide meaningful action. The two go hand in hand, and when used together, they can truly transform the way we connect and influence others.

In this article, we will explore the concepts behind trust and influence, break down the insights from our upcoming "Creating Trust, Activating Influence" workshop, and show you how to leverage these principles in your work connections. 

Why Trust and Influence Matter?

At the core of every successful interaction lies trust. Trust is what makes people feel comfortable enough to open up, share their thoughts, and take your advice seriously. Influence, on the other hand, is what enables you to guide them toward meaningful action based on that trust. These two elements form the foundation of relationships in business, sales,coaching  and personal life.

While trust is about creating a safe environment, influence is the ability to inspire and motivate others to act. The key is to use these two forces together—when they work in harmony, you can transform ordinary interactions into impactful, meaningful conversations.

"Trust is the glue of life. It's the most essential ingredient in effective communication. It's the foundational principle that holds all relationships." — Stephen R. Covey

How to Build Trust and Activate Influence?

Our upcoming "Creating Trust, Activating Influence" workshop focuses on combining trust-building techniques with influence strategies that can be applied in any scenario—whether you're leading a team, guiding a client through a transformative decision, or navigating challenging conversations. Here's how the workshop breaks down these skills:

1. Mastering Persuasion Techniques

One of the most important aspects of influence is understanding the psychology behind it. In the workshop, you'll learn Cialdini’s Principles of Influence, a respected model for ethical persuasion. These principles—such as reciprocity, scarcity, and authority—provide you with a framework to influence others in a way that fosters mutual respect and collaboration.

Example:
Imagine you're leading a meeting where you need your team to adopt a new process. By using the principle of social proof, you can show that other departments are successfully using the same process, making your team more likely to follow suit.

2. Building Trust and Credibility

Trust doesn't happen overnight, but there are effective strategies you can use to build it quickly. The workshop introduces the Fogg Behavior Model, which helps you design trust-building interactions that align with the motivations of those you’re engaging with. You'll learn how to communicate in a way that builds credibility and creates a genuine connection.

Example:
If you're presenting a new idea to a client, you might align your proposal with their core values, demonstrating that you understand their priorities. This approach builds credibility and trust, making them more likely to trust your guidance.

"Trust is earned when actions meet words." — Chris Butler

3. Communicating Effectively Across Different Styles

A crucial element of influence is understanding the different ways people communicate. In this session, you'll explore Transactional Analysis (TA), a model that helps you recognize and respond to different ego states—Parent, Adult, and Child. This understanding allows you to adapt your communication style based on the emotional and intellectual needs of your audience, making your message more impactful.

Example:
In a team discussion, you might recognize that a colleague is speaking from their "Parent" ego state, offering rules and guidelines. By responding from your "Adult" state, with logic and calm reasoning, you can balance the conversation and keep it productive.

4. Handling Objections with Confidence

One of the biggest challenges in guiding decisions is handling objections. Instead of seeing objections as roadblocks, the workshop shows you how to view them as opportunities to build trust and further influence. Using the Challenger Sales Model, you'll learn how to reframe objections and use them to strengthen your position without pressuring or manipulating the other person.

Example:
If a client pushes back on your proposal, you can use their objection to ask more questions, showing that you genuinely want to address their concerns. This approach not only builds trust but also opens the door for collaboration and better outcomes.

Who Benefits from This Workshop?

These concepts apply to anyone who wants to improve their communication and relationship-building skills. Whether you're a coach working to guide clients through growth, a sales professional aiming to close deals, or a leader managing a team, building trust and influence will empower you to:

1. Establish deeper, more meaningful connections
2. Communicate effectively across different contexts
3. Guide others to take action confidently and ethically
4. Strengthen long-term relationships

“Trust is like the air we breathe—when it’s present, nobody notices; when it’s absent, everybody notices.” — Warren Buffett

So, if you’re ready to take the next step in mastering these skills, don’t miss the opportunity to join us for this transformative workshop.

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Cialdini, R. B. (2006). Influence: The Psychology of Persuasion. Harper Business.
Covey, S. R. (2004). The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People. Free Press.
Berne, E. (1964). Games People Play: The Psychology of Human Relationships. Grove Press.
Dixon, M., & Adamson, B. (2011). The Challenger Sale: Taking Control of the Customer Conversation. Penguin.

The journey of a team from its formation to reaching the pinnacle of productivity is akin to navigating through varying seas, each presenting its own set of challenges and opportunities. In this article, we will explore the four critical stages of team development—Forming, Storming, Norming, and Performing. Each stage is a unique phase, presenting specific challenges and opportunities for growth and development.

1. The Forming Stage: Long Live Our Team!

The Forming stage, as the inaugural phase of a team's life cycle, is where team members come together for the first time. Characterized by high levels of enthusiasm and anticipation, this stage also harbors an undercurrent of anxiety and uncertainty. Bruce Tuckman, in his seminal 1965 paper "Developmental Sequence in Small Groups," described this phase as crucial for establishing the groundwork of team dynamics. During this stage, members often behave independently and cautiously, exploring the boundaries of the team's purpose and their individual roles. This exploration, while essential, frequently leads to a period of low productivity, as the team has not yet gelled into a cohesive unit.

It is a critical time for team leaders to provide clear direction and support. Leaders are pivotal in setting the tone for open communication and collaboration, vital for the team's future success. In her book "Creating Effective Teams: A Guide for Members and Leaders," Susan A. Wheelan emphasizes the importance of clear communication during the Forming stage. She suggests that teams should focus on establishing clear goals, roles, and responsibilities from the outset to facilitate a smoother transition to later stages. Patrick Lencioni, in "The Five Dysfunctions of a Team," highlights potential pitfalls during the Forming stage, such as lack of trust and fear of conflict. He advocates for building trust as a foundation for effective teamwork. Additionally, Meredith Belbin's team roles theory provides valuable insights: understanding diverse roles, such as the 'plant' for creative ideas or the 'coordinator' for organizing team tasks, can help harness the strengths of each member effectively.

2. Dissatisfaction: The Storming Stage 

Following the initial Forming stage, the Storming stage emerges as a turbulent and challenging phase. Characterized by conflict, frustration, and dissatisfaction, this stage arises from unmet expectations and clashing personalities. It is a crucial phase as it tests resilience and conflict management abilities.

In the Storming stage, the initial excitement of forming the team gives way to the reality of executing tasks. Team members begin to push against the boundaries established earlier, and differences in working styles and opinions become pronounced, leading to conflicts and power struggles. 

Conflict resolution is a key aspect of the Storming stage. Kenneth W. Thomas, a conflict resolution expert, points out that conflict is not inherently negative and can strengthen a team if handled correctly.  Emotional intelligence also plays a pivotal role during this phase. Daniel Goleman emphasizes the importance of self-awareness, empathy, and regulation in managing interpersonal dynamics. These skills help team members navigate the Storming stage, understanding and empathizing with differing perspectives. Leaders must recognize and respond to their team's needs, sometimes taking charge and at other times facilitating and mediating conflicts to ensure progress.

Amy Edmondson's concept of psychological safety becomes critical here: teams that establish an environment where members feel safe to express dissenting opinions and take risks without fear of retribution are more likely to navigate the Storming stage successfully.

3. Resolution: The Norming Stage

The Norming stage in team development marks a significant transition from the turbulence of the Storming stage to a more structured and harmonious environment. In this phase, team members start resolving their differences, fostering mutual respect, and establishing clear norms and processes. This stage is characterized by increased team cohesion and a growing sense of confidence among members.

As teams enter the Norming stage, there is a noticeable shift in how members interact with each other. They begin to appreciate the strengths of their colleagues and learn to respect and work with their differences. This newfound harmony aligns the team around common goals and values, fostering a strong sense of identity. Members become more committed to the team's objectives, leading to a rise in cooperative efforts and productivity.

Organizational psychologist Edgar Schein emphasizes the importance of establishing a robust team culture during this stage, which becomes the guiding force in how team members interact and collaborate.

Moreover, the Norming stage necessitates clear role definition and efficient processes. Susan A. Wheelan's work on team effectiveness underscores the need for clarity in roles and responsibilities, which helps reduce conflicts and misunderstandings that were prevalent in the earlier Storming stage. Additionally, the conflict resolution skills developed during the Storming stage, are instrumental in achieving the collaboration seen in the Norming stage. Teams learn to manage disagreements constructively, contributing to a more cohesive work environment.

Reflecting on Henry Ford's quote, "Coming together is a beginning, staying together is progress, and working together is success," the Norming stage embodies the journey from initial formation to a cohesive and collaborative unit. It signifies the evolution of a team from a collection of individuals to a unified group geared towards success.

4. Production: The Performing Stage

The Performing stage is the zenith of team development, where teams reach their highest level of efficiency and performance. This stage is characterized by high productivity, seamless collaboration, and a deep understanding among team members. It’s a phase where the group has successfully navigated the rough waters of team dynamics and has established a stable, cohesive, and productive working relationship.

In this stage, team members work together effectively, leveraging their strengths and compensating for each other's weaknesses. The team operates like a well-oiled machine, with each member understanding their role and how it contributes to the team's objectives. Conflicts, while still present, are managed constructively and efficiently, without derailing the team's progress.

Leadership in the Performing stage often becomes shared or distributed among team members. This is echoed in the works of leadership expert John Maxwell, who states, "Leaders become great, not because of their power, but because of their ability to empower others." In this stage, leadership is not centralized but fluid and dynamic, depending on the task and the expertise required.

Peter Senge, in his book "The Fifth Discipline," emphasizes the importance of learning organizations in the context of high-performing teams. He suggests that teams that continuously learn and adapt are more successful. In the Performing stage, teams are not only effective in their current tasks but are also constantly evolving and improving their skills and processes.

A fitting quote that encapsulates the essence of the Performing stage is from basketball coach Phil Jackson: "The strength of the team is each individual member. The strength of each member is the team.", highlighting  the symbiotic relationship between individual team members and the team as a whole.

Understanding these stages of team development empowers leaders and team members to navigate through each phase effectively. Recognizing that each stage is a natural progression towards achieving high performance can transform potential challenges into growth opportunities.

FOR FURTHER EXPLORATION:

1. Tuckman, B. W. (1965). Developmental sequence in small groups. Psychological Bulletin.
2. Maxwell, J. C. (2002). Leadership 101: What Every Leader Needs to Know. Thomas Nelson.
3. Lucado, M. (1999). Just Like Jesus. Thomas Nelson.
4. Ford, H. (1922). My Life and Work. Garden City Publishing Company.
5. Isaacson, W. (2011). Steve Jobs. Simon & Schuster.